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the discipline of the whip, but insisted upon having the cri. minal hanged up afterwards ; when the master interposing in his behalf, it produced such high words between them, that my
uncle ordered his horse, and swore he would never darken our doors again as long as he breathed. He went home, and about two months after died : but as he could not forgive the ill treatment which both he and his dog had met with at our house, he had altered his will, which before he had made entirely in our favour. I am, sir, your humble servant,
In amore hæc omnia insunt vitia ; injuriæ,
All these inconveniences are incident to love ; reproaches, jealousies,
quarrels, reconcilements, war, and then peace.
Tule marquis of Halifax, in his “ Advice to a Daughter," has instructed a wife how to behave herself towards a false, an intemperate, a choleric, a sullen, a covetous, or a silly husband ; but he has not spoken one word of a jealous husband.
Jealousy is that pain which a man feels from the apprehension that he is not equally beloved by the person
whom he entirely loves. Now, because our inward passions and inclinations can never make themselves visible, it is impossible for a jealous man to be thoroughly cured of his suspicions. His thoughts hang at best in a state of doubtful. ness and uncertainty ; and are never capable of receiving any satisfaction on the advantageous side ; so that his in. quiries are most unsuccessful when they discover nothing ; his pleasure arises from his disappointments, and his life is spent in pursuit of a secret that destroys his happiness if he chance to find it.
An ardent love is always a strong ingredient in this passion ; for the same affection which stirs up the jealous man's desires, and gives the party beloved so beautiful a figure in his imagination, makes him believe she kindles the same passion in others, and appears as amiable to all be
holders. And as jealousy thus arises from an extraordinary love, it is of so delicate a nature, that it scorns to take up with any thing less than an equal return of love. Not the warmest expressions of affection, the softest and most tender hypocrisy, are able to give any satisfaction, where we are not persuaded that the affection is real, and the satisfaction mutual : for the jealous man wishes himself a kind of deity to the person he loves ; he would be the only pleasure of her senses, the employment of her thoughts : and is angry at every thing she admires, or takes delight in, besides him. self.
PHÆDRIA's request to his mistress, upon his leaving her three days, is inimitably beautiful and natural.
Cum milite isto præsens, absens ut si es :
TER. Eun. Act I.
" When you are in company with that soldier, behave as if you were absent; but continue to love me by day and by night; want me; dream of me; expect me; think of me; wish for me; delight in me; be wholly with me; in short, be my very soul, as I am yours."
The jealous man's disease is of so malignant a nature, that it converts all it takes into its own nourishment. A cool behaviour sets him on the rack, and is interpreted as an instance of aversion or indifference; a fond one raises his suspicions, and looks too much like dissimulation and artifice. If the person he loves be cheerful, her thoughts must be employed on another; and if sad, she is certainly thinking on himself. In short, there is no word or gesture so insignificant but it gives him new hints, feeds his suspicions, and furnishes him with fresh matters of discovery: so that if we consider the effects of this passion, one would
rather think it proceeded from an inveterate hatred than an excessive love ; for certainly none can meet with more dis. quietude and uneasiness than a suspected wife, if we except the jealous husband.
But the great unhappiness of this passion is, that it na. turally tends to alienate the affection which it is so solicitous to engross; and that for these two reasons, because it lays too great a constraint on the words and actions of the sus. pected person, and at the same time shows you have no honourable opinion of her ; both of which are strong motives to aversion.
Nor is this the worst effect of jealousy ; for it often draws after it a more fatal train of consequences, and makes the person you suspect, guilty of the very crimes you are so much afraid of. It is very natural for such who are treated ill and upbraided falsely, to find out an intimate friend that will hear their complaints, condole their sufferings, and en. deavour to soothe and assuage their secret resentments. Besides, jealousy puts a woman often in mind of an ill thing that she would not otherwise perhaps have thought of, and fills her imagination with such an unlucky idea, as in time grows familiar, excites desire, and loses all the shame and horror which might at first attend it. Nor is it a wonder if she who suffers wrongfully in a man's opinion of her, and has therefore nothing to forfeit in his esteem, resolves to give him reason for his suspicions, and to enjoy the pleasure, of the crime, since she must undergo the ignominy. Such probably were the considerations that directed the wise man in his advice to a husband : “ Be not jealous over the wife of thy bosom ; and teach her not an evil lesson against thyself.”—EccLES.
And here, among the other torments which this passion produces, we may usually observe that none are greater mourners than jealous men, when the person who provoked their jealousy is taken from them. Then it is that their love breaks out furiously, and throws off all the mixtures of suspicion which choked and smothered it before. The beautiful parts of the character rise uppermost in the jealous husband's memory, and upbraid him with the ill usage of so divine a creature as was once in his possession ; whilst all the little imperfections, that were before so uneasy to him, wear off from his remembrance and show themselves no
We may see by what has been said, that jealousy takes the deepest root in men of amorous dispositions, and of these we may find three kinds who are most overrun with it.
The first are those who are conscious to themselves of an infirmity, whether it be weakness, old age, deformity, ignorance, or the like. These men are so well acquainted with the unamiable part of themselves, that they have not the confidence to think they are really beloved; and are so distrustful of their own 'merits, that all fondness towards them puts them out of countenance, and looks like a jest upon their persons. They grow suspicious on their first looking in a glass, and are stung with jealousy at the sight of a wrinkle. A handsome fellow immediately alarms them, and every thing that looks young or gay turns their thoughts upon their wives.
A second sort of men, who are most liable to this pas. sion, are those of cunning, wary, and distrustful tempers. It is a fault very justly found in histories composed by politicians, that they leave nothing to chance or humour, but are still deriving every action from some plot and contrivance, for drawing up a perpetual scheme of causes and events, and preserving a constant correspondence between the camp and the council-table. And thus it happens in the affairs of love with men of too refined a thought. They put a construction on a look, and find out a design in a smile ; they give new senses and significations to words and actions, and are ever tormenting themselves with fancies of their own raising. They generally act in a disguise them. selves, and therefore mistake all outward shows and ap