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cipal figures in the embroidery, were love, desire, fondness of speech, and conversation, filled with that sweetness and complacency which, says the poet, insensibly steal away the hearts of the wisest men.
In this was every art and every charnz
Juno, after having made these necessary preparations, came, as by accident, into the presence of Jupiter, who is said to have been as much inflamed with her beauty, as when he first stole to her embraces without the consent of their parents. Juno, to cover her real thoughts, told him as she had told Venus, that she was going to make a visit to Oceanus and Tethys. He prevailed on her to stay with him, protesting to her, that she appeared more amiable in his eye than ever any mortal, goddess, or even herself had appeared to him till that day. The poet then represents him in so great an ardour, that (without going up to the house which had been built by the hands of Vulcan, according to Juno's direction) he threw a golden cloud over their heads, as they sat upon the top of Mount Ida, while the earth beneath them sprung up in lotuses, saffrons, hyacinths, and a bed of the softest flowers for their repose.
This translation of one of the finest passages in Homer, may, suggest abundance of instruction to a woman, who has a mind to preserve or recall the affection of her husband. Taking care of the person and the dress, with the particular blandishments woven in the cestus, are so plainly recommended by this fable, and so indispensably necessary in every female who desires to please, that they need no farther explanation. The discretion likewise in covering all matrimonial quarrels from the knowledge of others, is taught in the pretended visit to Tethys, in the speech where Juno addresses herself to Venus; as the chaste and prudent management of a wife's charms is intimated by the same pretence for her appearing before Jupiter, and by the concealment of the cestus in her bosom.
I shall leave this tale to the consideration of such good housewives who are never well dressed but when they are abroad, and think it necessary to appear more agreeable to all men living than their husbands : as also to those prudent ladies, who, to avoid the appearance of being over-fond, entertain their husbands with indifference, aversion, sullen silence, or exasperating language.
LOVE AND LUST DISTINGUISHED. THE ADVANTAGES OF
Capricious, wanton, bold, and brutal lust,
The imposition of honest names and words upon improper subjects, has made so regular a confusion among us, that we are apt to sit down with our errors, well enough satisfied with the methods we are fallen into, without attempting to deliver ourselves from the tyranny under which we are reduced by such innovations. Of all the laudable motives of human life, none has suffered so much in this kind as love; under which revered name, a brutal desire called lust is frequently concealed and admitted; though they differ as much as a matron from a prostitute, or a companion from a buffoon.
The figures which the ancient mythologists and poets put upon love and lust in their writings, are very instructive. Love is a beauteous blind child, adorned with a quiver and a bow, which he plays with and shoots around him, without design or direction ; to intimate to us, that the person be. loved has no intention to give us the anxieties we meet with; but that the beauties of a worthy object are like the charms of a lovely infant; they cannot but attract your concern and fondness, though the child so regarded is as insensible of the value you put upon it, as it is that it deserves your benevolence. On the other side, the sages figured lust in the form of a satyr; of shape, part human, part bestial; to signify, that the followers of it prostitute the reason of a man. to pursue the appetites of a beast. This satyr is made to haunt the paths and coverts of the wood-nymphs and shepherdesses, to lurk on the banks of rivulets, and watch the purling streams, (as the resorts of retired virgins,) to show, that lawless desire tends chiefly to prey upon innocence ; and has something so unnatural in it, that it hates its own make, and shuns the object it loved, as soon as it has made it like itself. Love therefore is a child, that complains and bewails its own inability to help itself, and weeps for assistance, without an immediate reflection or knowledge of the food it wants; lust is a watchful thief, which seizes its prey, and lays snares for its own relief; and its principal object being innocence, it never robs but it murders at the same time.
From this idea of a Cupid and a satyr, we may settle our notion of these different desires, and accordingly rank their followers. ASPASIA must therefore be allowed to be the first of the beauteous order of love, whose unaffected freedom and conscious innocence give her the attendance of the graces in all her actions. That awful distance which we bear towards her in all our thoughts of her, and that cheer. ful familiarity with which we approach her, are certain instances of her being the true object of love. In this ac. complished lady love is the constant effect, because it is never the design. Yet though her mien carries much more invitation than command, to behold her is an immediate check to loose behaviour; and to love her is a liberal edu. cation : for, it being the nature of all to love to create an imitation of the beloved person in the lover, a regard for ASPAsia naturally produces decency of manners, and good conduct of life in her admirers. If, therefore, the giggling LEUCIPPE could but see her train of fops assembled, and
Aspasia move by them, she would be mortified at the veneration with which she is beheld even by LEUCIPPE's own unthinking equipage, whose passions have long ago taken leave of their understandings.
As charity is esteemed a conjunction of the good qualities necessary to a virtuous man, so love is the happy composition of all the accomplishments that make a fine gentleman. The motive of a man's life is seen in all his actions : and such as have the beauteous boy for their inspirer, have a simplicity of behaviour, and a certain evenness of desire, which burns like the lamp of life in their bosoms; while they who are instigated by the satyr are ever tormented by jealousies of the object of their wishes, often desire what they scorn, and as often consciously and knowingly embrace where they are mutually indifferent.
AMANDA, the wife of Florio, lives in the continual enjoyment of new instances of her husband's friendship, and sees it the end of all his ambition to make her life series of pleasure and satisfaction ; and Amanda's relish of the goods of life is all that makes them pleasing to Florio; they behave themselves to each other, when present, with a certain apparent benevolence, which transports above rapture; and they think of each other in abscence, with a confidence unknown to the highest friendship; their satisfactions are doubled, their sorrows lessened, by pare ticipation.
He does not understand either vice or virtue who will not allow, that life without the rules of morality, is a wayward, uneasy being, with snatches only of pleasure ; but under the regulation of virtue, a reasonable and uniform habit of enjoyment. There is in a play of old Haywood, a speech at the end of an act, which touches this point with much spirit. He makes a married man, upon some endcar. ing occasion, look at his spouse with an air of fondness, and fall into the following reflection on his condition :